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The rules, and what actually gets you removed

Rules pages are written to be defensible, not to be read. This is the readable version — what is actually expected of you on a random video chat, what other people report, and what follows a report.

The one rule everything else follows from

The person you are matched with did not choose you. They pressed the same button you did and the system paired you. Nothing about that pairing implies consent to anything beyond a conversation.

Almost every rule below is a specific case of that single idea, which is why you can usually work out the right answer without looking anything up.

What gets reported, in practice

These are the things that reliably end a session badly:

  • Exposing yourself, or steering the conversation there after the other person has declined.
  • Recording or screenshotting the other person, which they have not agreed to.
  • Pressuring someone for their name, location, social accounts or number after a first refusal.
  • Abuse aimed at someone for who they are rather than anything they said.
  • Being there at all if you are under 18.

What is not a rule, even though people assume it is

You do not owe anyone a conversation. Skipping quickly is not rude and is not reportable — it is the mechanism working as designed. You also do not owe anyone your camera; using voice or text is a normal way to be here.

And you are not obliged to keep going out of politeness. The exit exists precisely so that nobody has to negotiate their way out of something uncomfortable.

What happens when someone reports you

Report and block sit in the same place during a call. Blocking is immediate and personal — that person will not be matched to you again. Reporting sends the session for review, and moderation runs around the clock rather than in office hours.

A report is not a verdict, and one bad-tempered exchange is not the same as a pattern. But the record is cumulative, and the accounts that get removed are generally the ones people kept reporting for the same thing.

If it happens to you

Skip first. There is no reason to stay in a conversation to establish evidence — the session is reviewable without your continued presence, and nothing is gained by enduring it.

Then report, then block. In that order, because reporting from inside the session attaches it to the right conversation.

Who you actually meetReal people from the directory, and how matching differs from browsing it.

The other two